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This is the Chris Abraham Show. Hey, this is Chris Abraham, The Chris Abraham Show season five episode 41. And I'm doing walkies. And because yesterday was so intense and and crazy and about Stephanie, that I thought I would make it a little bit more chillax. And more general. I'm watching a little bit of this TV show season nine of Alone.
It's on Netflix cuz I don't have The History Channel. It's pretty awesome. And there was one guy there named Jacques, I think Jacques and he bailed after like two or three days. Cuz he was he really. He wondered what he was challenging himself for when his. His girlfriend and his dog made his life happy every day. And I hated to say, I mean it was sweet, right? It was sweet.
But like, here are my thoughts. My thoughts are as follows. Firstly there, it's a competition, so it's not like he just went out to challenge himself in the Labrador forest. With no goal in mind, his goal was to win $500,000 which could really help him, his family and all the therapy he needs based on how terrible is growing up was. So also 100 to 120 days is nothing in the in.
Mind you, Jacques is 23/22/23, so.
It's very interesting, right? It's a little, very interesting in a world of perspective. Because I have.
What are you doing? Oh, OK. Sorry. Anyway, I was just happen to be in like the area where this guy was trying to park and so very funny, thought I was being stalked.
So yeah, it was very sweet. And I'm hoping that he also felt really bad about killing a squirrel, and he said that if he weren't a group, he'd feel better about it. And whatever, 23, right? I mean, he might not ever get an opportunity like this again. And I hope see my skeptical world of like this reveals something about me, right?
It revealed that the gift that I would have of leaving after two or three days because I missed my dog and my girlfriend so much and went home to them. Would not be enough of a love bomb and a show of like selflessness and devotion to my small little family as being a pussy and like potentially losing our young family half $1,000,000, right? So it's it's similar to the way I feel about kids who go home on camp. Because they miss their mommy too much, right? Like I haven't, even though he touched my heartstrings. And I totally appreciate the fact since I grew up with two alcoholic parents in a very kind of bullying world As a as a Howley kid in Hawaii, I still feel like, you know, you got to man up and and and you got to do. You got to complete the mission, right? So on one hand, I find it like my empathetic, like I've been pursuing empathy this year, both for myself and for others. And I've also been pursuing like, like, like rigorous kindness both to myself and to others and forgiveness for myself and others like rigorous, Like all I think about is that and that, Chris.
Really love the fact that this young man realized he has everything he wanted, and ever since he's been with his girlfriend and his dog, he hasn't. That's when his good memories began. Now, if this guy were a soldier, he wouldn't be able to just quit three days in right on deployment. He might be able to wash out if you were going out for something like buds or boot camp or whatever, but and I know this is just TV and it's not real life and so forth, but on one hand, I feel such compassion for him that he knew that what he had right in front of him is what he wanted and needed more than anything, and that this challenge that he was putting himself through. The fact that the money never came up made me believe that he never believed he would win the money or win. It's not just a challenge like, you know, my business partner Mark or someone like Raman or or Andrew. My buddies would like just go off into the wilderness like adventure bike camping, disappear forever and for the challenge.
There was no half $1,000,000 at the end of it, right? So and then like the other side of me is like will she ever perceive him as? Will she start to see the relationship as something he will pull the cord on? Will she now feel? Will she look at his behavior since he's only 23? Will she look at his behavior pulling the ripcord? Will she perceive that as a character flaw which is going to doom the relationship because she'll never be able to respect him or fully trust him again?
Or did she miss him so much and that their family is so insular? That she just wants them home so that they can start making beautiful Jacques babies. Like, old Chris is like fucking loser pussy freak. And new Chris is like, oh man, I really loved being a universe of two. Like, there were times when I was with Stephanie, Or when I was with Liz, or when I was with Michelle, or when I was with Georgina. Like, even Georgina, we never lived together. Like, even with Wendy, right?
Like there were times when I'm like if I can extrapolate on this moment vis A vis Groundhog Day, if I could live this day ad nauseam into immortality, not just for the remaining 50-60 years at the time. I would do it right. Wake up in bed together, take a shower, have some coffee, maybe a little breakfast. Have a little kiss, Get dressed, Go out to into the world. Meet up later.
Maybe have a drink, maybe have some dinner, Maybe order in. Maybe watch some dumb TV. Maybe go on a picnic. Maybe visit a new restaurant. Maybe go on a run in the morning or go on the run in the evening. Maybe go to a gym together with Betsy. A lot of those days were perfect. Like wake up in the morning, make some coffee, make some breakfast.
Go off to work, come back home, take trips to Paris, take trips to Florida, Miami. You know, one of the great experiences was like the perfect days included days where we're living together in in South Arlington, in in Pentagon City.
Like, even going to ballet bar going, no, not ballet bar, going to biker bar and going into DC and taking spin classes together, right? Like if I had a partner, who'd want to take spin classes with me, like, you know, 3-4 times a week for the rest of my life, that would be smashing. If I had a partner that would like to go and encourage me. To go to park run on Saturday and go with me like that would be spectacular. So I can't diss him like when I was 23. Would I want to spend 100 days away from Stephanie? Like, I don't know.
I don't know. Probably not at least at 1st until I became an idiot. So. So, like, there's the conundrum, right? There's the conundrum of suck it up, Buttercup.
Cowboy up half a million. Like if you won that money, you know the IT would makes things so much easier for that relationship, right? So, and for the future, and for having children. And for buying a house. And for buying a car. And for.
Getting outfitted and for, you know, putting together a retirement plan or putting money aside for the future baby to have college money, You know, things like that. And definitely therapy for what you perceived as a terrible childhood. You don't even have to ever think of yourself having a terrible childhood for therapy to be a good idea for a man. But if you if if your entire narrative is what is shitty childhood you have and how fucking shitty your parents are and were like, that's a signifier that maybe you need a little bit of therapy or you need to go to Al Anon. I recommend for Jacques I recommend Jacques go to Al Anon. That is the that is a 12 step program for. Children of Alcoholics, adult children of Alcoholics, people who love Alcoholics, partners of Alcoholics and all that kind of stuff that teaches you things like, you know, how to deal with codependency and how to deal with issues of independence. And and honestly, if you had gone to Al Anon or therapy before this challenge, you would realize. That being away for 120 days with the opportunity to win a half $1,000,000 is the healthy choice. It's the healthy choice.
And that being so afraid that your your relationship is not going to suffer those hundred 2000 thirty days. The fear that your relationship is so fragile that everything will come apart is really the kind of. Of of damaged heart and damaged soul and general sadness that needs surely, surely needs to be addressed and will be addressed and can be addressed by Al Anon and ality and and in therapy and learning how not to be codependent and learning how to stand on your own 2 feet. And learning not to put the weight of the world of all of your happiness. On the weight of a dog and a petite blonde woman.
So I'm speaking from experience. I'm speaking from experience, put a lot of pressure on my girlfriends over the years, a lot of expectation and all that fun stuff. So with that being said, I am within highball range of Starbucks coffee and they have a an espresso and some water for me. And I am listening to an interview with Greg Gutfeld on a podcast, and I think it's very enjoyable. I really like that show.
But I refuse to pay for. I refuse to pay for cable or you know, I refuse to pay like, you know, YouTube TV or Hulu TV or. Any of those other services that are like $75 plus in order to get that kind of that kind of real time kind of stuff? Anyway, talk to you soon. Thanks for walking me to Starbucks and I love you. Aloha.
This was Chris Abraham season five episode 41, and I'll see you the next time. Ciao.
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